What are your non-negotiable? (Relationship Edition)

I have always been the guy that ladies vent their relationship problems too. I think the main reason for this is my relaxed and passive nature leads females to believe I have no alternative motive when I advise them.

Anyways, when most of my female friend decide to tell me about the new guy they are seeing or an upcoming first date they first start out with a list of negatives

Hes too short
He's too fat
He only has a job he doesn't have a career
He's not a good dresser
He's not a good speaker

Now I am not fan of a person settling for less than they deserve but the list of attributes and qualities of an ideal mate can be ridiculous.

A true list for finding a mate should be a two sides list have 1. negotiables and 2. non negotiables.

1.The non negotiable should be a short of the list and it should only list things you can't live with out ie religion, family values, etc. Even though you would love your dream man to be like Denzel Washington you must realize that he is already taken and if you were to spend a week with him you see his flaws and your perception of him would change.

2. The negotiables list shouldn't have request that the person can't physically change such as height, completion or family members (well you can always kill a family member but its shouldnt get that far). A negotiable can be a request such as I want my partner to be in better shape or I want my partner to have a better job but as my father always told me "you can lead a camel to water but you can't force it to drink". A person will not change their situation until they want to change it, we merely can hope that we motivate them into action.

In dating and in relationships we must always remember that the person we are dating may have physically stop growing but is still growing mentally and spiritually. The men and woman we idolize as perfect mates in entertainment are often in there late 40s and have gone through life altering experiences to shape them to be the men and women they are today. You can't expect a 26 year old man to be as eloquent as Barack Obama and you can't expect a 23 year old girl to be as classy as Michele. You are dating a person for what they will become and not what they are. Your non negotiables should reflect the seeds of those core qualities that you need to see blossom as your relationship grows deeper.

And always remember you're not perfect either!

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Don't Facebook in the Morning

In this technology addicted world the first thing most of us do in the morning is check our email and social media. We get do caught up with post and tweets that the time flies by and we forget to take care of ourselves.

Looking at your email is looking at someone else's agenda. Think about it how many times does your email actually give You something. Your emails are usually companies trying to selling you something or newsletters discussing their opinion and pushing their agenda. (And no, that Prince in Africa who has left you millions of dollars in inheritance that's owed to you only if you X amount is sent to pay for lawyer fees )

Now I'm not saying that email, Twitter and Facebook are bad, nothing on this earth is inherently bad. The first thing on your agenda in the mornings shouldn't be about the world it should be about you. You have no excuses not too. It only takes 5 minutes of self talk or just thinking about how your day,week and/or month is going. Other thing to thing to do in the morning

1. Exercise
2. Meditate
3. Pray
4. Have a heart to heart with a loved one

Give some of these activities a chance one morning and do it before you check you email or a social media outlet . If it doesn't work i'll give you your money back (advice is free so you get nothing).

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NFL Week 14 Power Rankings

NFL Week 14 Power Rankings

Top 5

1. Atlanta – Even though Atlanta lost, they lost in a respectable fashion to Cam Newton a top 10 QB.
2. Houston – The Texans just never seemed into the game, the usually attack of alot of Arian Foster with a sprinkle of Andre Johnson never got a chance to happen this game. When a team like the
3. Patriots – Domination of a top 5 team propels the Patriots higher in the power rankings. They not only beat the Texans but they mad it look easy and effortless.
4. San Francisco – I love watching these defense play and Colin and Gore running the ball will make the Niners a tough out in January
5. Broncos – The General Strikes again. The Broncos simply and consistently beat teams they are better than.


Bottom 5

28.Browns - Three in a row, I told you this team has some nice weapons on offense
29. Eagles – Nice win by the Eagles and Nick Foles, is he the QB of the future I am not sure but one thing I am sure of is he is not a turnover machine like Michael Vick.
30. Tennessee   – The Colts have the magic this year so the Titans didn't stand a chance.
31. Jaguars – Just not enought weapons and with Jet Killer MJD, the Jags had no chance here.
32. Chiefs – The emotion of the prior weeks events could only lead to one more win for the Chief, back to the regular business of losing

Fantasy Monster – Adrian Peterson is a man!!!!

Sanchez Watch – The Jets win despite Sanchez. His progression as QB has stalled and it appear the ceiling for Mark Sanchez is a backup Q.B

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NFL Week 13 Power Rankings

NFL Week 13 Power Rankings

Top 5

1. Houston – Just another day in the office (2 passing touchdowns for Schaub, 1 rushing TD for Foster and 1 sack for Watt)
2. Atlanta – A fairly easy win this past Thursday night thanks to Drew Brees playing the worst game of his career. The Falcons bolster one of the best records in NFL but most analyst feel they are the weakest of the top tier team. The answer is still yet to be seen but one thing we know for sure is the Falcons wins games by any means necessary.
3. San Francisco – The Kapernick magic train has hit a bump. I not going to put too much stock into this 49ers loss. I believe this loss was a hangover loss from the high off last week big divisional win against the Saints.
4. Broncos – The hate has gone too far and I would like to apologize to the Broncos fans. The Broncos play isn't flashy and isn't explosive but the Broncos play is consistently good and error free. Denver defense is also playing big and Von Miller has added his name to Defensive Player of the year candidates.
5. Patriots – Brady is looking like Brady again and things are starting to gel a bit more on defense with Talib. The scariest thing is Gronk isn't even playing.

Bottom 5

28. Jets – Even with a win this team doesn't leave the bottom five in my eyes. A very sloppy win for the Jets here. With Sanchez's benching he will probably never be a confident number one QB again.
29. Browns – I really like this team a lot for the future, all they're missing is a explosive receiver and a big time QB (only about 5 NFL teams have this combination anyway). Weeden is proven to be a professional NFL QB but his ceiling is as a second string QB at best.
30. Eagles – Vick done for year, Reid gone at the end of the year. Eagles fans will have to get used to being a AFC East cellar dweller for the next few years. I expect to see the Eagles blows up the team and starts from scratch...So much for the Dream Team
31. Jaguars – No shame here losing to a Bills team that has the tendency to under-performed (except for Sunday).
32. Chiefs – Big time emotional win in the face of a tragic Saturday Kansas City






Fantasy Monster – MegaTron 171 yards, 1 TD






Sanchez Watch – Finally benched!!! the inconsistent play had to stop. I had a nightmare last night the NY Jets QB’s next year were Tim Tebow and Michael Vick. yuuucckkyy






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